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We've weathered some storms brought up by outside stress and past relationships, and we're clearly committed to each other in the long term. My worry now, though is that we have been trying so hard to just be dating for so long, that we may have lost what our friendship looked like before.
We went from being best friends to dating, and now I'm not sure what happened to our friendship. We still have fun, but not really in any of the same ways. Nope, I don't think you're overthinking things. I'm an expert in overthinking, so I can say that with great confidence. I think you're being a good friend and a good boyfriend, and I applaud that. Before I go any further, let me say something. While nine months seems like so very long, it's not crazy long. In fact, I think it's a good place to be asking these questions.
It's a much, much better place to ask them than at, say, nine years. You've found yourself falling into a pattern in your relationship, and you don't like that pattern and want to change it before you get really stuck. Nine months is a great time to do that, because it's going to be much easier to unstick whatever isn't working. Now that you two have weathered a couple of storms, it seems like that initial "we're so crazy about each other! And you know, it probably is, but that's okay because there's another, deeper glow going on.
Being smitten is not the same thing as being in love, which is not the same thing as love. In the best of all worlds, all those things are connected. In less perfect worlds, they're a string of broken links. But the good thing is it sounds like you guys are most definitely in the best of all worlds. I say this because your letter tells me as much. You had a friendship before you dated, you both seem aware that friendships and romantic relationships take work, you both seem committed to working at whatever relationship you have, and you clearly want to be together.
That tells me that being in love and loving each other most definitely followed the being smitten phase. Now, I've been in a relationship similar to yours. Started off great, lots of fun, as much friends as romantic partners. But then all sorts of shit gets stirred up within the relationship and around it, mostly because that's what life does — it throws shit around, lets it settle, throws it around again.
Sometimes it's good shit, sometimes not. It's hard to set all of that aside and focus on each other, not as two people who had some bad fights or as two people who are supporting each other in stressful situations.
It's hard to focus on each other as two super awesome people who absolutely percent know how to have fun and be friends and love each other. You know what else is hard? Going from a friendship in which you didn't see each other a ton to being in a relationship in which you probably see each other a lot more. So you don't have the time to reflect, or to go out and get stories to come home and tell each other, or to make specific plans to do rad things together.
That's what life does — it throws shit around, lets it settle, throws it around again. Number one: I want you to sit down and talk to your girlfriend. I want you to say to her something along the lines of, "I love you and our relationship is so crazy important to me. But so is our friendship. I mean, it's a big part of the reason I fell so in love with you! We have so much fun together, but I never ever want us to stop being friends.
I know we've had to deal with some heavy stuff, maybe sooner than we wanted to, but we did it well and I'm proud of us. So, I was thinking, maybe we could go do [super cool thing] and [other super cool thing] later this month? Number two: Think about whatever it was you did when you were friends. Did you make elaborate dinners for friends? Did you play board games with a crew?
Did you go to museums? Did you go on bike rides? Pick one or two of those things and make a plan to do it together. These are not dates! These are friend things. These are you two hanging out enjoying yourself in an environment that has nothing to do with any of your relationship stress, or whether you love each other. Number three: And on that note, make sure you both make time to see your other friends. Or to do solo activities, like fencing or yoga or painting or community gardening. It'll give you time to be yourself, rather than the you-in-relation-to-your-partner.
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Even better, it will give you stories to come back and tell each other. Just like you did when you were friends.
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Maybe I'm just overthinking things but I miss my friend and I want this to last.
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Being smitten is not the same as being in love Now that you two have weathered a couple of storms, it seems like that initial "we're so crazy about each other! That's what life does — it throws shit around, lets it settle, throws it around again So my advice to you is pretty clear cut. I want you to do three things. More From The Verge. Email required. Still available on Amazon as a hard copy or as an e-book.
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